Here are some takeaways:
- When your child gets upset, you should use empathy to make headway by connecting right brain to right brain. Then, once they are more receptive, you can redirect to the left brain by involving the child to make amends and find a solution, on their own or together.
- When your child gets upset, the upstairs part of the brain (the part where they can make decisions, have self-control and show empathy) is not available. Therefore, in order to connect, you need to wait for your child to calm down or help them calm down, before you try to rationalize with them.
Pair The Whole-Brain Child with Daniel Siegel’s other book, No-Drama Discipline and you’ll have a better road map to handling tantrums, outbursts, back talk and other challenging behavior as your kids move from the toddler to school age years.